They might choose to engage in sexual activities for the pleasure of their partner, to conceive a child, or simply because they want to know what it's like. Do asexual people ever have sex?Īgain, it completely depends on the person, but some asexual people do have sex for many different reasons and AVEN says that some do enjoy it. You might use one of these labels to describe yourself if you have felt sexual attraction in the past, but it's just not often. Some people who define themselves as somewhere in between asexual and sexual consider themselves to be "gray, graysexual, gray-asexual, or gray-a," according to AVEN. Like other facets of sexuality, asexuality is not black or white. $15 at I once felt sexually attracted to someone. You might want to even shout it from the rooftops. But if being asexual, or "ace" as some people in the community call it, is something that you identify with, then there's nothing to be ashamed of. That being said, you are a multidimensional person who might take more pride in other facets of your life (like having killer brows, being a total whiz at math or having amazing cooking skills). I would put myself in the last category." Should I be proud to be asexual?Ībsolutely. Others call themselves aromantic, meaning they're not romantically attracted to anyone. People talk about being hetero-romantic, bi-romantic, homo-romantic etc. They can! According to Simone: "We tend to say in the asexual community people have romantic orientations despite not having a sexual one. A lot like kissing and cuddling and other romantic affectionate physical gestures." Can asexual people be gay? "I would consider being in another relationship in the future, but whether or not that would look like a stereotypical relationship to other people I'm not sure, because I'm really not a physical person at all. "I wouldn't say being asexual has been a barrier, as I'm quite happy being single," she continues. A woman named Simone spoke to Cosmopolitan UKabout her experience dating as an asexual person.
And, if you're interested in a romantic relationship (but not a sexual one), there are people who can totally speak to that experience. If you don’t experience that, the attraction to others generally isn’t sexual." I've never met anyone else who is asexual. According the AVEN, "sexual orientation ultimately comes down to an intrinsic desire for sex with another person. You realize what is considered attractive, and you can appreciate someone's beauty, but that doesn't mean you want to have sex with them. I have no desire to have sex, but I see that people are attractive? Am I still asexual?